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Transformative Conflict Management

De Derde Partij. What's in the name?

We chose the "endless knot" as the figurative trademark. After all, this image is a good representation of systems thinking, the basic thinking in conflict situations. A common and wrong approach to conflict is to look at the contribution of separate individuals and to form an opinion about what is going on based on this. However, systems thinking takes a fundamentally different approach, by putting the individual personality between brackets and looking at what is going on "between" people. So the point is to find out what someone is in relation to another. In this way a person/employee is not reduced to being dominant or wait-and-see, but as dominant or wait-and-see in relation to or in the presence of another person/employee. It is less confronting for someone to adjust his/her behavior in a specific context than to adjust his/her entire personality.

Human relationships are cyclical and interdependent, and therefore we see an infinite influence and coherence between people and systems. The system as a whole is more than just the behavior of the members that compose it. Every effect is immediately also a cause, and this loops continues infinitely. Hence the “endless knot”.

As far as images are concerned, we mainly use fractals from nature. Fractal thinking goes much further than the linear thinking that many entrepreneurs still cling to; mainly thinking in terms of cause and effect. When there is a problem, linear thinking simply looks for the cause. The idea here is that the problem can be eliminated if you tackle that particular cause. Fractal thinking actually even goes a lot further than system or circular thinking also. Fractal thinking, the absolute way of thinking based on the laws of nature, starts from the perception of connections based on all your senses. Fractal thinking unites opposites, provides insights and closes the circle. It includes everything and nothing; ancient wisdom, such as Fibonacci, as well as new insights. It also teaches us that every medal has two sides that are interdependent.

The name “De Derde Partij” – in English “The Third Party” – refers to the accredited mediator as a neutral, independent and impartial - or rather multi-partial - party. After all, a mediator is there for everyone involved, and is committed to improving communication and creating and monitoring a safe framework for all participants. As a third party I guide the disputants towards a joint solution, always striving for a win-win situation. It is often enough to sit around the table with a third party to create new perspective and generate positive energy.

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